Here We Go Again

Well, I've gone and done it again...I've totally goofed up, and made a rather large, although not totally horrible, mistake...

You see, for Christmas, birthdays, etc, MIL send us gift checks...she will pop in the mail a very cute card with a check in varying degrees of generosity, dependent upon her mood, and how the year looks for us. This year, we took said money, and deposited it.

BB thought we put it into savings, I vaguely remember thinking (at the very least) we should put it into checking, as we needed it to pay for some credit card balances that we had accumulated.

Last night, BB informed me as a "by the way" sort of thing that he'd sold some stock options, and that he'd like to know how much we owe to whom, and we could use our Christmas money along with the proceeds to pay off any remaining balances that we could...the usual offhand sort of thing he does every so often (which drives me nuts, but that's a different story altogether).

SO...this morning, he asked me where our accounts stood, and I told him our balance in checking and savings. He FREAKED OUT! He thought our money had gone somewhere else than it had, we had a discussion (not an argument, but a discussion), that resulted ultimately in my accusing him of not trusting me to do what I said I'd do. He has asked me to check into the situation and let him know where we stood. I said I would, we finished breakfast, and he got up. I assumed he was on his way to go shower etc, and then I heard the computer desk open up, and knew that he'd gone to look on his own. I was a bit perturbed, and got up, walked into the office, and asked what he was doing...he smiled this smug smile and said "looking at our accounts, what does it look like?" I'm afraid I lost my temper...I said "way to trust me. If you trust me, then your actions need to back that statement up. So. You can either say you trust, and actually TRUST me, or you can continue to look online when you should be getting ready for work, and be lying to me, not trust me, and totally insult my intelligence, and hurt my feelings. Your choice." And walked out of the office, back into the kitchen, calmly did the breakfast dishes, cleaned up the table, put away the hand-washed dishes from dinner last night, made his lunch, and took care of the animals.

He, in the meantime, had sort of huffed his way upstairs and was getting ready for work. SO, I went into the office, logged into our online account place, made sure that all was up to date (part of what he accused me of missing) and the like. I had the information for him, our account totally reconciled, and had paid all the bills while he shaved and showered and dressed.

And now, the mistake I made...Apparently, the money from Christmas was supposed to be saved for "something down the road"...well, I saw it in checking, and when I paid the bills last month, I used it to pay the bills.

I mean, if you saw that you had a deposit into your checking account around the holidays, wouldn't you assume that it was to be used to paying things? Whether that means you used your debit card or checkbook to make purchases, or used it to pay off a credit card balance is a moot point...you'd use it for something like that right? Without necessarily saying "Dear, I am paying bills, may I use the money in the checking account?"

Eh...so he's a little miffed, I'm miffed at myself, but on the upside, it's not as though I used it to purchase unnecessary things...I used it to pay bills...

Hopefully, by the time BB comes home, he'll be over his upset, as I will work toward being...

In the meantime, I'm off to take care of the kids, the house, the animals, and all the other thins I do during the daytime...