July 27, 2011

Food for Thought

A bloggy friend just posted about a trip her family took recently, and how she's been feeling...

On the trip, things were good - they were feeling connected, rested, enjoyed time with extended family, and experiencing the local sights and food...and came home resolved to slow down and enjoy life and family more.

She also mentioned feeling this sort of distance between who she is now (mother, stepmother, wife) and who she dreams of being (writer, teacher, mom...) and was wondering how to get back to who she dreams of being...

It made me question - Why do we as women have to choose between who we dream of being and who we are in the now?

Why is it that men can be father/son/husband/brother/friend and professional, but we as women must choose?

It just seems to me that you can either be the wife and mom, OR you can be the successful whatever...

Is it truly because that's how we're designed? We're designed to be the helpmeet, and NOT the breadwinner so we can be either one or the other but never both?

I just wonder if the men in our lives feel as though they are missing out on something because they go off to a job every day instead of staying at home to wash clothes, dust furniture, read stories, schlepp children hither and yon and cook meals?

It makes me wonder if our "men and women are equal" thinking is causing some of this distress in our lives...don't get me wrong...I'm all for people making the same amount of money for doing the same level of job - if you're a doctor, you should all make the same amount of money regardless of your sex or race (etc etc), and if you've been on the line at the factory the longest, you should make the most regardless...

HOWEVER...it just makes me wonder...just because we can do the same things as men, should we?

1 comment:

Queen Mother said...

The more I hear and see, I wonder too.