Yes, I know it is only June, and that Christmas is in December. Yes, I know it is 90 degrees outside today, and that we are more concerned with threats of tornadoes and hail than we are trees, decorations and holiday shoppers...
HOWEVER...I got an email today from MissionaryMan (actually, from my SIL) that said they are planning to use their holiday time this year and COME HOME!!!!!!!
YAY!!!!! I am so excited at the prospect of getting to meet my nephew and soon-to-be-new-niece before they get too much older! Nephew will be 2 in November (he was my 31st birthday gift all the way from Africa!), and Soon-to-be will be born sometime in October, so will only be a couple months old when we meet...but I really don't want to bank on them spending time with us when home on furlough in another 18 months...besides, how can I cuddle with Nephew when he's almost 4 and has never met me? That's what would happen if we had to wait...
Now for the quandry...this is our year for Christmas with MIL and FIL...OY...
MIL can't travel (see previous posts on that matter) and BB and I try very hard to insure that they get as much face-time with the kids as possible.
So now we face the daunting task of having "the conversation" with them in July about coming for Thanksgiving again, instead of Christmas...the one benefit I can think of is that we'd get to see BB's brother and family...but the down-side is that it would leave MIL and FIL alone with only BB's Aunt and Grandma...and I don't think she's had that happen. Ever. BB and I, or BIL and his family are there for one of the holidays every year...but I really want to spend all of the time that MissionaryMan and his family are home that I possibly can...it's been almost 3 years since I saw my brother and his wife, and I'd really like to get to know her better, and catch up with my brother, and let our kids meet, and be able to play with cousins that are their own age...
AUGH!!!!!!!!! I am so afraid that BB will insist that we go to Oregon and spend 3 weeks and miss my family altogether...
Please pray that I will be at peace about this, and that the right thing will happen as far as visits go...maybe a miracle will occur and MIL and FIL will say they'll come here for Christmas?!?!?
3 comments:
if it were me i'd vote to go at thanksgiving..I'm sure if you presented to him (BB) what you've presented here, and what is in your heart, he would clearly see that this is something you need and want. It's beneficial to the children, and your relationship with your family. It clearly would make you happy. And I'm not saying that I don't want BB happy..it's just that you ask for so little and do so much for your family. I'm saying prayers for you..Hugs and much love.
In my humble opinion, a visit with family who hasn't been state-side in three years & won't be again for 18 months trumps family you see with some kind of regularity a short plane ride away.
I pray it doesn't cause tension & that your in-laws would be surprisingly supportive.
Here's hoping the inlaws will see how vitally important it is for you to see your brother's family when they've been on the other side of the world for years. Have fun with SML and his family! I once thought I'd name a child after him, but have decided it wouldn't be fitting to name a baby after a college crush, no matter how wonderful. =)
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